Setting
Ute Lake State Park near Logan, New Mexico, USA
Wisdom
Ah-Ha!!
As one aspires to ascend, one must work to align with one’s truth.
How does one do so?
Be true to Self, honor Self, put Self first.
Deeper Dive
In the first post on this topic, I highlighted the fact that we tell the Universe what we want to align with through our words and actions. I also showed examples of aligning to a true path versus a false path.
The junipers that line our current campsite bring feelings of well-being, and they encourage truth in order that new beginnings align with one’s higher Self. In this post, I cover the concept of being true to Self and then aligning words and actions with that.
A Life to Live
I pose the question to the reader: Who’s life are you here to live?
This question was key when I initially focused on aligning with my truth and higher Self. I found that oftentimes I took actions aligned with someone else’s desires, or my assumption of what their desires were, or on socially expected behaviors. Always I put someone else before my Self. Then I began asking myself “who’s life am I here to live?” With this as my guide, I gradually changed my patterns and commitments. And as I aligned with my own truth, my spirit-essence Self began awakening.
Selfish versus Respectful
When the concept of putting my Self first initially surfaced for me, it felt selfish. I was taught by childhood influencers to “be nice”, “put others first”, etc. And to not do so was labeled selfish. As an adult I struggled, thinking: how do I put my Self first without being selfish?
Then one day while in a meditative state, I learned that selfishness is ego-based and a fear that is grounded in the obstacle of scarcity-greed. Keeping things for one self, hording, and so on are acts of being selfish and based on small self being in charge. I further learned that to make oneself one’s priority is in fact, being respectful to the one person who truly matters: Self. Thereafter, I began using the mantra “Me first. Me first. Me first,” to remind me of whom is the most important person on Earth.
Identifying One’s True Path Through Actions
Determined to respect Self, I began looking at every action I took. I asked “why am I doing …?” Initially it can difficult to know whether an action is one’s true desire or do to feeling obligated. However, one can start with the obvious things. This opens the pathway to seeing the more deeply-engrained actions for what they truly are. When I came across something I was doing for others and found it difficult to stop, I phrased the question: “who’s life am I here to live?” This did not make the situation any less uncomfortable, but it reinforced my resolve to honor Self.
A note here: I am not advocating that one walk away from caring for children or other loved ones whom are dependent for their wellbeing. There are some commitments made earlier in life that must be carried forth. That said, ask the question “is this person able to care for themselves?” If intuition says they are, perhaps it is time to allow them to stand upon their own path. Being a crutch for them in not beneficial for either person involved.
Examples:
- A gentleman I know had his 27-year-old son living with them. The gentleman commented that he wanted his son to be debt-free before moving out. My comment back: “did your parents do so for you? Perhaps you are robbing your son of important life lessons.” His son was encouraged to move out shortly thereafter, and he has been doing very well.
- A dear friend has an autistic brother for whom she is guardian.Though her life perhaps could be less complex, she has fully committed to his care. He lives with her and husband, and he is well cared for in a loving environment.
Be Impeccable In Your Word
All said about actions above can be reiterated for one’s words. And, I quote Don Miguel in his book The Four Agreements(see our Resources page), “be impeccable in your word.” Watch clichés, socially common phrases, tones of voice, and attitudes through voice. Ask: “Why am I saying this?”
One may be surprised how often spoken phrases do not align with what one truly desires or believes. People tend to parrot others’ words in an effort to be accepted; derogatory remarks about others or about one Self. For example: “He is arrogant.” “I never get a good parking spot.” “I am stupid.” Personally, I cringe when I hear people say such things about their beloved Self. How disrespectful!
Realize that what one says, one manifests. As a simple example, one continues to experience undesirable parking spots. (We will post about manifesting in the near future.)
Be mindful of word choice. When faced with undesirable phrases, one can choose to either (a) not express themselves or (b) express themselves in a more positive, respectful manner. Both choices lead to aligning with one’s truth.
Conclusion
I know the process of aligning with truth takes time and causes life changes. I stopped talking so much; no longer blurting comments that did not resonate with me. I stopped attending social events that I had previously thought important. Now, I am aligned with my truth and deeply committed to my spirit-essence higher Self. And I am very happy.
I encourage readers to be mindful of one’s actions and word choices. Take the process slowly, and gently change actions and words. Be respectful and honor one’s Self. Gradually, one aligns to one’s truth and thus to one’s spirit-essence higher Self.
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Aho, Nakeetah.
With loving intentions, Lila