Setting:
Nuremburg, Germany
Results:
My experience in the Nuremberg area left me with a deeper understanding of empathic abilities and with guidance on how to manage my empathic abilities including responsibilities.
Deeper Dive:
The more awakened I become, the more empathic I become. I am not special in this way. All humans have the ability to be empathic, it is part of our natural make up. As a person opens their heart to the greater energetics around them, they naturally become more empathic. Being empathic is having the ability to read and feel other people’s (other beings’, other entities’) energies.
Many people struggle to learn how to minimize the effects of other people’s energies upon themselves. I too struggled with this. After many years of energetic trial and error, I now have the following wisdom to share.
Energetic Body
I am sure you are aware that we all have an energetic body that envelopes our physical body. There is a great deal written about this, and I encourage you to research it more in depth if it interests you. For the purposes of this blog, a quick overview. When we are feeling strong and in our own power, our energetic body can go out several feet in all directions. When we are feeling weak or meek, the energetic body is shallow and very near our physical body. Our energetic body naturally broadcasts our mood and emotional state. When we are angry, it reverberates with that emotional energy. When we are in a state of loving kindness, it sends out energetics of such. When we awaken on our spiritual path, we naturally strengthen our energetic body. As such, it grows further from our physical body and becomes more sensitive to what it interacts with. Thus, we begin to feel other people’s energetic body.
We can sense their mood, emotions, and even their thoughts.
Recognizing Empathic Energetics
Initially, when a person begins to feel other people’s energies, it can be confusing. This is because energies coming from another source feels very much like your own emotions. One might find themselves wondering why they feel so sad or so angry without cause. This is a clear sign that you are empathically feeling energies from an external source.
Some people are very attuned to nature, spirits of the Earth, and Mother Earth – Gaia – herself. For these people, they are empathic to the energetics of a place. Perhaps you feel sadness any time you drive through a certain neighborhood. Or you feel joy-filled when at a certain spot in nature. These are simple examples of being empathic to nature spirits.
As a side note, this is the energetic attunement I utilize when identifying areas in nature that might benefit from a clearing/renewal process. I introduce myself by name and ask “how are you today?” Empathically, I can read their reply. Then I ask “how might I choose to assist you?” Sometimes the reply comes immediately via a knowing, and other times the reply comes through my dreams. Never do I push my abilities to heal upon them. Never do I assume that I know better than they what they need. To do so is arrogant and righteous. To do so can do more harm than good. To do so is showing human dominance over nature; just as each human has free will to choose, so does every other entity, including nature spirits.
Responsibility of an Empath
With each great ability comes great responsibility. And so it is with becoming empathic. As an empath, it is our responsibility to witness others exactly where they are, honor their process, and give them space to work through whatever it is they are experiencing.
Each entity (person or spirit) that you sense has the right to free will. They can freely choose to feel exactly how they feel. They have a free-will choice to work through their life’s lessons exactly as they choose. We, as empaths must understand this, recognize this, and honor this. It is our responsibility to remain neutral and to not mettle or try to fix what we see as ‘wrong’. We cannot take away their sorrow nor their pain. We cannot fix them. It is irresponsible to assert our healing abilities without invitation of such. That said, read “Energetic Assistance” below to find out how to responsibly assist.
It is our responsibility to care for our own energetic body. We each must take care so that our energetic body does not become filled with the emotional debris of others. This is critical. Allowing oneself to take on the emotional baggage, debris, trauma, or drama of others leads to discord within oneself. And can lead to serious health problems for the empath. In Part 2, I describe how to set boundaries and to manage your energetic body to avoid this.
Energetic Assistance
In our natural state, we are constantly emitting energies through our energetic body out to others. When we are able to maintain a state of benevolent, loving kindness, this is the energy that others feel when they intersect with our energy body. In this way, we are freely distributing energy of loving kindness to others.
In this way, we are freely distributing energy of loving kindness to others.
And this is a form of energetic assistance, if they choose to receive. Some will receive your high-vibrational energy as a healing. And, others will reject it and even act vehemently against it because it is so different than how they choose to feel. Either reaction is fine because, remember, they have a right to choose how to feel.
We can choose to take our energetic assistance one step further. If we sense discordant energies or feel someone struggling, we might choose to offer assistance. Remember, when choosing to assist, this is a great responsibility. Remember, assistance must be done from a place of neutrality, of honoring their process, and of non-judgmental compassion.
To assist, ask “how are you today?” And if the situation feels right, we might choose to ask “how might I choose to assist you?” If they ask for assistance, it is our responsibility to do so from a place of neutrality so that we do not absorb their emotional baggage. We might choose to listen non-judgmentally. We might choose to place a hand of support upon their arm or shoulder. Always from neutrality. Never sympathetically matching their emotions. To empathically assist, one must remain detached. This is critical, so I repeat. To empathically assist, one must remain detached.
Remaining detached and becoming aware of our choice to assist or not strengthens our empathic wisdom. The more we do this in practice, the more aware we will become of energetics. Soon we will be able to recognize our own personal energies compared to others.
Energetic Cording
When we choose to assist others, be aware that we are assisting those in a weakened, desperate state. As such, there is always the potential that they might try to attach to us energetically. This is called cording. They feel the empath’s energy of loving kindness, and they want more. They may believe that the empath’s energy is their only life-line. They may believe that the empath’s energy was freely offered so it is their right to take all they can get.
An empath’s decision to assist does not give others the right to intrude into your energetic field. It does not give them the right to invade your space. It does not give them the right to push upon you all their emotional baggage. We must be strong and determined to keep this from happening.
To avoid being corded by those we assist, we must:
- Remain neutral. When in a state of neutrality, we provide no energetic hooks to which they can attach.
- Be completely detached. See their experiences as lessons they chose for themselves. See their situation as an honorable process. See your assistance as a breath of fresh air that will allow them to get unstuck from their current conundrum.
- Maintain boundaries. (Read Part 2 about setting boundaries.) Hold space for yourself as a separate individual with a free-will to remain happy, healthy, detached, and unburdened by their story. Be strong, determined, and forthright about your desire to remain detached. In some situations, to maintain your energetic boundaries, you may need to envision closing a gate or putting up a Divine hand that says ‘Stop! Do not come any closer! You are trespassing, retreat at once!’
- Remember, you are in your sovereign authority and have the right to choose to remain there. Remember, the only way to truly assist others is to remain completely inside your own sacred space, in your own power, honoring your own autonomy, and cherishing your awakened abilities.
Conclusion:
Taking time to understand one’s empathic abilities opens new levels of wisdom about oneself, energies, and others. Spending time neutrally observing one’s emotions begins to shed light upon what is one’s own feelings versus that of other’s. Learning to be a responsible empath will lead to a healthier, happier life as an empath.
In part 2, we will discuss healthy boundaries and how to construct a healthy, secure energy field. With healthy, clearly defined boundaries, we are able to assist others energetically without negatively affecting ourselves. We are able to quickly detect if someone is trying to cord us, and we can take energetic action to avoid it. There is nothing to fear in all this. It is a natural process that we as humans need to understand and learn how to manage.
Happy empathing!
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Aho,
With loving intentions, Lila